Certainly two very good questions. I won’t pretend to have solid answers, but I’ll offer my thoughts.
Is the unborn child our neighbor too?
I see no reason to believe the unborn child is not our neighbor. The question then is, as you correctly identified, how to love best them.
How to best love the unborn child?
It is important to make explicit the point I was making in my original article. It is not that Christians should be ambivalent to abortions. But the issue I am addressing is how we are called, as Christians, to engage an issue such as this.
It seems to me that, generally, we can better love our neighbor through personal relationship rather than through legislation. Christ’s love is more powerful than man’s legislation. After all: I am ultimately not good at loving others. But Christ works through me. I love my neighbor not by my own ability, but by Christ’s great life through faith in Him.
Ultimately, I ask myself this question: is someone less likely to have an abortion because it’s illegal, or because they feel safe and loved in their community, knowing that they have friends, family, and loved ones that support them, even in these difficult situations? Which of these role is the Christian to play?
Let me know what you think.